Abracadabra

Abracadabra!

Everyone doesn’t believe in magic. And this blog post isn’t about magic, it’s about self-talk. The word “abracadabra” translated from Aramaic history, means “it will be created in my words” or “I will create as I speak.” There’s more to it than that, but that is the main point I want to convey. The first stop on the Lynchpinning path is to take account of your self-talk and find out what you think about yourself. You will know what you think about yourself when you hear what you say about yourself. And what better way to capture deliberate self-talk, than to write it all down?

I’m not talking about classic journaling. I do journal almost every day as therapy. For me, it helps to empty out all of my reoccurring thoughts and concerns out of my head and into my notebook, where they won’t be bothering me all the time. This form of writing therapy works for me, and I rinse and repeat as needed to help keep the self-talk at bay.  But in the Lynchpinning process, I am talking about emptying your thoughts and sorting your components into an arrangement that most aligns with your authentic self. If you stick with me and master becoming a lynchpin, you will see “emptying” as a recurring theme in our work.

So back to “abracadabra” and “self-talk.” Before you can lynchpin your life, which means you are going to sort all the areas of your life, pull them together, fasten them, and maintain; you need to 1.) accept who you are now and 2.) identify the future you that you aspire to have.  The process will not feel magical. It may actually irritate you. But if you stick with it, I promise you will change your life, your family’s, your communities, and the world –right there where you are.

We engage in all kinds of unsolicited self-talk almost constantly. We understate the truth about our capabilities. We overemphasize our shortcomings. We blame ourselves. Telling or asking ourselves:

Abracadabra! Keep saying it and it will all manifest, just as you say. In fact, most likely it already has. This incessant, unwelcomed chatter is fueled by repetition, regularity, and incessant faith. So, you have what you say. Tomorrow, you let the tape roll on constant replay, adding, “I’m overwhelmed! There isn’t enough time in the day.”

Abracadabra works deliberately. And nothing captures a set of deliberate thoughts as succinctly as an obituary. I ask my tribe-mates to write two obituaries. The first one is written as though they died at their current age. They can see their lives on paper exactly the way they see themselves. The second obituary is written from the perspective of them having lived to 78 years old, the life expectancy in the United States. Everything in between now and then –between who they are now and who they say they want to become, that is why we lynchpin. You can grab the Obit Worksheets in one of my upcoming blog posts.

Does the prospect of writing your own obituary make you anxious? Superstitious? Sad? Why?

Love and Peace,

Tracey Alexandria Lynch